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“I have yet to find the man, however exalted his station, who did not do better work and put forth greater effort under a spirit of approval than under a spirit of criticism”.  Charles Schwab

I am putting the finishing touches on my lesson for Mother’s Day.  I am teaching on Encouraging our children.  The above quote by Charles Schwab caught my attention and I wanted to share it with you.  EVERYBODY wants and needs to be appreciated, even our children and it doesn’t matter how young or old they are.  Do you know it takes 10 positive comments to overcome the effects of a negative one?  Find something good to say to them today and see how their eyes light up.

Okay, not going to teach my lesson on here.

Be blessed!

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Charles Swindoll wrote this in “Growing Wise in Family Life” and I think it is well worth repeating here.  This is so true!

What’s the atmosphere like in your home these days?…Are you in danger of raising a “hurried child?”  Capture some time this week and take an honest look at the quality of childhood your family lifstyle is providing for your little ones.  What will be memorable to your kids when they, as adults, look back on the early years?  Will it all seem like a marathon?  Have you allowed television to snatch up much of your children’s unscheduled minutes…and hours?

Seeking God’s wisdom, ask yourselves, “What can we do as mom and dad to encourage our kids to enjoy being kids.”  Are you creating an atmosphere of relaxation and flexibility…or do the words hurry and rigidity better characterize your home?  Any plans for a relaxed family vacation in the works?…As you plan, remember that childhood is an infinitely precious commodity.  Your children will only grow up once. 

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Just another little tidbit about my Dad. Enjoy!

Daddy had an incredible love for young people. When he was young he was the Youth President of the Western District, U.P.C.I. I hear stories even today from pastors and their wives in the Western District of how much Daddy and Mother meant to them as teenagers going to camps and conventions, etc. When he pastored in Fresno, California back in the sixties, he was driving in town one day and saw a young “hippie” boy on the side of the road. He said that his first inclination was to say, “go get a haircut and a job, boy”. However, when he had that thought he said that God spoke to him and said, “why don’t you try to see that boy through my eyes”? And he began to weep. He later preached a sermon entitled, “Seeing the Lost through the Eyes of Jesus”. It was a great sermon. He also experienced great revival with just those kind of young people. Well over 100 of them received the Holy Ghost and was baptized in Jesus Name. Some of them are in ministry today and some are still in the church there in Fresno and in various congregations around the nation. God led Daddy and Mother from Fresno to Houston to Rialto, CA to Mesquite, TX to traveling for 5 years and then going to be the leader of the Lighthouse Ranch for Boys in Louisiana. Everywhere they went they impacted young people! I just wonder, when the rewards are handed out in Heaven how many jewells will be in their crowns?

Daddy had an incredible love for my mother, Lila Marie. I remember as a girl when Daddy would leave to go pray for someone or just take care of business in town, that he would stop at a pay phone and call Mother just tell her that he loved her. We would get tickled about it but it left an impression on me that I will never forget. He treated Mother with utmost respect, and she returned that to him. I believe that the greatest gift you can give your children is that you love one another. There is security in that for kids.

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This coming Sunday is designated for Father’s Day.  What a great day!  I probably had the best Dad in the world.  He was a man of “Steele and Velvet”.  My Dad was strong in his beliefs and convictions.  He was a preacher/teacher par excellent.  I loved Wednesday Night Bible Study.  Daddy’s teaching was incredible.  Oh yes, he could go awhile but it was always good.  The wisdom of my father astounded me at times.  I would sit and listen to him talk to young people, friends and ministers (when I was allowed to) by the hour and gleaned so much from these times.  He just made sense. 

On a more personal level:  I remember one time when I broke up with a boy that HE wanted me to break up with.  Afterward, I went to my room and laid across the bed and cried.  In a few minutes I heard a light knock on my door.  I didn’t answer because I knew it was Daddy and I thought he was going to reprimand me for crying.  However, he came on in and he just sat on the bed and put his arm on my back and then I heard him crying.  That’s when I looked up at him with tear stained cheeks and red eyes and said, “Why are you crying? You wanted me to break up with him”.  And he said, “I’m crying because I know you are hurting.”  He was just that kind of father.  How could a girl want for more? 

Daddy always was the more serious type when it came to church. He was always joyful in his worship but he didn’t want any foolin’ around in church and sometimes funny things just happen.  Why is it always more funny when you know your’re not supposed to laugh?  One time my older sister, Linda, a friend named Patsy and myself sang a song on Sunday Morning called “Things are Gonna Be Better Afterwhile”.  It was horrible!  Patsy sang the lead,  Linda, alto and I was in the rafters on tenor.  We finally made it to the end of the song and when Daddy got to the pulpit he simply said,  “I sure hope things will be better afterwhile”.  Linda was humiliated and I was laughing so hard I was crying and Patsy had the nervous giggles.  I could write a book about funny things that happen in church.  One time Daddy was preaching and he said, “I’m so glad to be in the widdle (middle) of God’s mill (will)”.  Needless to say we had a good laugh over that one. 

I loved it when I heard Daddy pray.  He sounded like he was talking to one of his friends.  When I was young we lived right across the street from the church and on many occasions I would walk over and sneak into the church or stand by his office door and listen to him pray.  I always wanted to have a walk with God like him.  It just seemed like as soon as Daddy said, “Jesus”, that He was right there.  So many times when we was about town, in a resturant etc.  Daddy would simply say, “Thank You Jesus”, ” I love you Jesus”, “Hallelujah” or “Praise God”,  and give praise to God wherever he was.  He walked with the Lord on a daily basis.  His relationship was not just a Sunday thing.  It was all the time.  He was a friend of God.

Daddy didn’t have much in this life by some standards, although we were always blessed.  But he left me a legacy that is far more precious then any amount of money, houses or lands.  Even in Daddy’s death he was preaching.  Oh, not like he use to do when he stood in the pulpit but nevertheless preaching just the same.  The nurses loved to come into his room and listen to him talk about the things of God.  I watched them as he would talk about heaven and their eyes would fill with tears.  I knew they were feeling the presence of God.  I was feeling it as well.  I remember one nurse in particular that came into the room and you could tell she was a little frazzled.  I said, “Are you okay”?  And she said, “Oh it’s just been a rough day.  I love to come into Mr. Layne’s room because it is always so peaceful in here”.  Yes, I would say he was preaching, even on his deathbed.  There is a peace of God that passes all understanding that comes with a life that has been completely sold out to Him. 

Daddy passed from this life on April 5, 2004.  I am so blessed to have had such a Godly, loving father.   

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My dear Mother has been gone for several years and I miss her terribly. However, I do have the hope of seeing her again one sweet day. If your Mother is still with you today I hope you will take the time to let her know how very special she is. That is one thing I am always thankful for is that I let Mother know while she was alive how very much she meant to me. You can’t say or do enough for your mother! Give her a big hug if she is near you. Call her if she is far away, but let her know you love her. I thank God for giving me the best Mother a girl could ever want.

I hope every mother feels as special as you are today.  Happy Mother’s Day! 



You filled my days with rainbow lights,
Fairy-tales and sweet dream nights,
A kiss to wipe away my tears,
Gingerbread to ease my fears.

You gave the gift of life to me
And then in love, you set me free.
I thank you for your tender care,
For deep warm hugs and being there.

I hope that when you think of me
A part of you
You’ll always see.

~Author Unknown~


“God could not be everywhere
and therefore he made mothers.”
~Jewish proverb~

“Of all the rights of women,
the greatest is to be a mother.”
~By Lin Yutang~

“The heart of a mother is a deep abyss
at the bottom of which you will always
find forgiveness.”
~By Honore’ de Balzac (1799-1850)~

“The mother’s heart is the child’s schoolroom.”
~By Henry Ward Beecher (1813-1887)~

“Youth fades; love droops,
the leaves of friendship fall;
A mother’s secret hope outlives them all.”
~By Oliver Wendell Holmes (1809-1894)~

“The joys of motherhood
are never fully experienced
until the children are in bed.”
~~Author Unknown.~~

When you were small… And just a touch away,
I covered you with blankets against the cool night air…
But now that you are tall… And out of reach,
I fold my hands and cover you in prayer
~author unknown

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This post was inspired by Too Awful.  Children are to be loved not abused.

John Donne once said, “No man is an island.”  Everyone needs relationships to survive physically as well as mentally.

In 1915 Dr. Henry Dwight Chapin, a New york pediatrician, discovered a disturbing phenomenon as he prepared a report on children’s institutions in ten cities.  In all but one institution, every infant under two years of age died.  They had all been clothed, fed, and taken care of medically and physically.  What was causing such an incredible mortality rate?  Dr. Fritz Talbot of Boston shed some light on the subject.  While visiting Germany before World War I, he was shown through the wards of the Children’s Clinic in Dusseldorf.  Seeing an old lady, apparently not a nurse, carrying a baby on her hip, he inquired as to her identity.  “That is Old Anna,” his guide replied.  “When we have done everything we can medically for a baby, and it is still not doing well, we turn it over to Old Anna, and she is ALWAYS successful.”  In the late twenties several hospital pediatricians introduced TLC (Tender Loving Care) into their hospital wards.  With a regular regimen of “mothering,” the infant mortality rates dropped dramatically.  I have heard many stories of people singing and talking to their premature babies and “nursing” them to health.  They made tapes of themselves singing and/or talking, telling stories and reciting poetry for when they could not personally be available.  When these tapes were played in the hospital nurseries it not only calmed the babies it was intended for but it calmed the other infants as well. And then when they were there with them they touched and cuddled with them as much as possible.  The human touch is an incredible “life-saver”.

It is an accepted fact that strong relationships are a positive factor in physical health.  Studies have shown that people who are married or have strong, positive friendships are healthier and live longer than those who do not. How much more should we cuddle and love our babies.  Sing to them  and tell them stories.  Pray little prayers with them and allow them to see that God cares about their little prayer requests.  You may even be surprised at the “little” prayers that God will answer if you take the time to take your little ones to the throne of grace.  And Please tell your children every day that you love them and let them feel your hugs.  Play with them too!  Dad, they love to get on your back and “ride the horsey”.  And Mom, they love to go “ride” the swings at the park WITH YOU!  Take the time, for it will soon be gone.  It is so important that they feel your love.  Children are to be LOVED not abused!

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